I was so drawn to this episode of Breaking Big about Roxane Gay on PBS. The main reason I fell in love with feminism after reading Gloria Steinem's books was the relief to hear Woman Speak Her/Their Truth. For me it was less about the short comings of men and had everything to do with women's Voice. And so here, listening to Roxane Gay speak her truth, is the same exhilaration I felt so many years ago when I first started experiencing feminism and reading feminist literature, and decided to Minor in it at college.
Voice. Through Roxane's unpaid writing years, to her current well paid writing life, it is incredibly refreshing to absorb this mini documentary that is a wonderful character development according to her literary people, parents, and directly from Roxane. How she never stopped writing through all the pain of her devastating childhood event that changed her life. She read books and wrote, read and wrote, read and wrote. And for her to write from within the pain and out of it, to a public presence, which is to me a healing presence because it's owning her pain so that we can feel less alone, less isolated, more connected.
Wonderful questions by the host of Breaking Big, Carlos Watson .... what resonates with me deeply, is how the he describes her courage to be so transparent with her readers - it's because she is so completely real and direct and open that her readers connect to her. For her literary agent Maria Massie to know at what point Roxane 'gave more of herself' - in the book Hunger - being open with a new topic more than she had been before ... And describing her books of essays "Bad Feminist" as relatable because Roxane so openly writes about how she 'is messy, there are no clean lines about how she thinks about things, and how she personally related to this, that there can't be this one narrow or rigid way of thinking or being' ... It's Roxane's realness that is the connector to our hearts ...
There is the fabulously interesting Tagline of the PBS show 'Breaking Big' : "What makes people successful? What are the unexpected turns in life that propel people to greatness? Carlos Watson, Editor of Ozy - I am out to uncover the real secrets to Breaking Big."
And YES, how Roxane's mentee explains that when people read about Roxane's self revelations, they realize they are not the only one going through this thing, they are not the only one who feels this way ... This is the Beauty of Being Real and this is the Beauty of Feminism.
I keep reading and hearing what my intuition says is true, that the world is just starved for Realness, and I'm so eternally grateful for Roxane's courage and voice, boldness and truth, steadfastness and vulnerability.