I grew up listening to sermons, and the thing I have always loved is that moment when the sermon transcends into something larger than life … There’s always a moment when a gifted sermon writer - like my father and so many other pastors in my life - can create something that opens up a bigger space to the listener … And it’s a more expanded space, a space that brings out the best in us, unifies us, and even heals us … This kind of opening and healing is what happens for me when I listen to the two Brené Brown TED talks. In fact, I want to spread the word just like one would in a church community … And so I will, here.
What occurs to me today after listening to both talks is one of the main reasons I adore this woman: she comes to the table with her full self. She is totally authentic to who she is, she swears, she is real, she is honest, she tells her stories of her process, of how something came to be. Not her “stories” as in “scripts” that may or may not be true, but her “stories” as in her process. She brings in her sense of humor after she clearly spent time in her mental “swamp land” … Because she lets herself be seen, she creates this tremendous connection among us humans …
I am so proud (careful, my ego!) that I was the person to introduced the books by Brené Brown to two of my friends years ago, including a pastor, and that the culture, values, research and voice of Brené Brown expanded within that community, including one church … This week I feel like a teacher sending to two friends - even new friends! - “homework assignments” with links to Brené Brown’s TED Talks. Also, for those of us coupled up with left brained men, isn’t the idea of creating a date around watching one of these Ted talks FABULOUS? Of course G and I haven’t done it yet, but it’s one of my ideas to set into motion.
There are so many amazing concepts in her talks, (and books and blog) and the TED Talks are always lovely for me to revisit, as fuel for my engine. (Brené even uses the phrase, vulnerability is fuel for our lives … ). The most important concept to me, which I want to put out in the world is this:
‘Vulnerability is not weakness.’
Here, Brené Brown’s most beautiful opening ::
“There's two things that I've learned in the last year. The first is: vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous. Let me ask you honestly -- how many of you honestly, when you're thinking about doing or saying something vulnerable think, "God, vulnerability is weakness." How many of you think of vulnerability and weakness synonymously? The majority of people. Now let me ask you this question: This past week at TED, how many of you, when you saw vulnerability up here, thought it was pure courage? Vulnerability is not weakness. I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty. It fuels our daily lives. And I've come to the belief -- this is my 12th year doing this research -- that vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage -- to be vulnerable, to let ourselves be seen, to be honest.”
It’s been a journey for me but I know now, more than ever, in my deepest knowing, that I actually equate vulnerability with courage and strength, and this is the kind of alignment I want to live in. A base, living value. Not just between me and my heart but me and my world. And this page is one of my spaces to constantly feed that value … So here, more of it ::